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Editor-in-Chief and founder of Nu Woman Magazine. Creator and Executive Producer of Nu Face Model Search & Nu Woman TV

Tiffany Evans, winner of Face Of Grenada 2015 talks with Nu Woman Magazine.

Face of Grenada winner, Tiffany Evans says she has always been interested in modeling and pageantry and took advantage of the opportunity to audition for Face of Grenada.

“This decision wasn’t based solely on the modeling aspect of the competition, it was partially due to the purpose behind the competition; bringing awareness to Grenada’s Marine Protected Areas as the theme was “Promoting Marine Protected Areas and Healthy Coastal Communities in Grenada.”

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Tiffany is wearing a black sea urchin inspired dress, designed and made by Kara Benjamin

She describes the experience as both a learning one and an exciting and fun extracurricular activity.

Tiffany reveals that there were many challenges throughout: sponsorship was difficult and she became very frustrated in the early stages of the competition.

“My confidence wavered during some photo-shoots and practice sessions. Ultimately, I overcame everything and was victorious.”

Tiffany talks about her platform ‘Establishing a Culinary Market to control the Evasive Lionfish’ and discusses what led her to choose this topic.

“I am very passionate about the environment, especially aspects that relate to marine ecosystems. Last year, I volunteered at a summer-camp that was held by the Fisheries Division of the Ministry of Agriculture, Forestry and Fisheries. While at the summer-camp I learnt a lot about the Lionfish and the devastation it was causing to our Coral Reefs. I became very intrigued by the creature and as a result, I thought it best to focus on an area I was knowledgeable and ardent about.

 

Photography by Shoulan Carter.
Photography by Shoulan Carter.

Progress is slow; I am still in the planning stage. However, I am certain that all, if not most, of the ideas I have outlined in my proposal will become a reality.”

She also discusses some valuable lessons learned, mainly the importance of cooperation, patience, humility and diplomacy stating that these allowed her ‘to coexist in the “cut-throat”, competitive environment’ and these lessons she says, she will take with her.

Tiffany says that despite everything, her life basically remains the same, with the only major change being the attention she receives from the public.

“Every time I am out I always get referred to as “Ms. FOG” or “the girl who won that show”. Apart from that, I occasionally receive messages via social media or comments in person saying that I’ve inspired them to pursue modeling, pageantry and even to continue their education!”

She says that “Face of Grenada” is not a regular beauty pageant and goes into details to explain why.

“The competition is dubbed “Beauty with a Purpose” and the organizers of the show seek to showcase beauty, fashion and modeling while shedding light on issues that our society is faced with. Yes, some may say beauty pageants are just like that, but I disagree.

The competition places heavy focus on fierceness, fashion and the ability to stand out in your runway walk rather than the bouncy, smiley and upbeat attitudes pageants girls portray. Apart from that, the show is set up with the competitive photo-shoots prior to the finale. The points from the shoots are awarded and used for the runway finale.

Colourful kivan by Kim Francis Designs.
Colourful kivan by Kim Francis Designs.

I think of Face of Grenada as a modeling competition and not a beauty pageant. Each girl brings something unique. Their own ideas, styles and personalities come out in their photo-shoots and designs they come up with for the various categories of the show.”

When asked what advice she would give to upcoming contestants she stresses the importance of practicing.

“Practice, practice, practice! Practice your runway walk, different poses and facial expressions as well as public speaking skills. Once you’ve mastered most of these the competition would be easier for you and you can place more focus on the outfits that you would need to come up with for the finale.”

Tiffany also discusses her short and long-term goals.

“My short-term goals are to continue working on my platform, ensuring that everything I set out to do happens and to maintain excellent grades for the semester at school. My long terms goals are to graduate with an exceptional GPA, gain more exposure into the world of modeling, travel and inspire other young women to live their dreams. We can have it all with hard work and dedication.”

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Tiffany Evans wearing avande garde dress by Kay Benjamin. Photography: Shoulan Carter.

 

When asked ‘what makes a woman beautiful?’ Here is Tiffany’s answer.

“There are many things that make a woman beautiful. I’m sure everyone has his or her perception of what beauty is, or what makes a woman beautiful. I think that beauty is often misinterpreted as just one’s physical appearance rather than the qualities and attributes a woman possesses that makes her physically attractive to anyone, not only a man. Confidence, humility, diplomacy, integrity, compassion, intelligence and drive are some qualities a woman should have. Those, among others, would allow her to shine and be beautiful in the eyes of anyone she comes in contact with.”

Tiffany also walked away with additional wins – Best Cultural Wear, Best Introduction, Best Evening Wear and Best Platform Speech.

 

Photography by Shoulan Carter

The avante garde outfit Tiffany is wearing is inspired by a black sea urchin and is designed and made by Kara (Kay) Benjamin (3rd runner up of FOG). 

Colourful Kivan by Kim Francis.

 

 

Online Shaming

By Ontahya Ross

Is It The New Era of Parenting?

Or Another Form of Bullying?

 

Painful emotion caused by the awareness of having done something wrong or foolish.

A pervasive, negative emotional state, usually originating in childhood, marked by chronic self-reproach and a sense of personal failure.

A condition of disgrace or dishonor; ignominy: an act that brought shame on the whole family.

One that brings dishonor, disgrace, or condemnation.

To bring dishonor or disgrace on: behavior that shamed him in the eyes of the community.

Is online shaming truly an acceptable form of parenting and another way for a parent to say look at me “I’m such a good parent”?

Or

Bullying at its finest?

Most think that online shaming is a way of “teaching a lesson”. One of the leading ways of staying connected is through social media, so it may seem clever to use social media to reach a child. But what happens when it goes too far?

Some parents seem to relish in the self-satisfaction and self-imposed ego trip from shaming their kids online. I’m for anything that helps discipline, motivate, and encourage positive change and behavior in a child, but not at the cost of demeaning the child.

Online shaming has somehow become the norm of discipline. But is it really discipline or a way to make ourselves feel superior while demeaning another? We go on believing that we’re teaching the child a valuable lesson; then telling ourselves that the child brought this upon themselves because they were warned repeatedly not to do whatever caused the public shaming. But is this really helping the child when bullying, cyberbullying, in particular, is at an all-time high resulting in suicide.

Michael Taylor and Izabel Laxamana, are just a few who have suffered from online shaming.

Izabel Laxamana jumped from a bridge just days later after video surfaced of her father cutting the teens hair in an attempt to “change” her behavior. Many are calling what the father did abuse and blaming the video for her untimely death. Izabel Laxamana’s post on Google Plus just days before the teen’s death proves that she was troubled and having issues with fitting in.

Izabel Laxamana’s Google Plus post:

“I feel hated most of the time I’m in school i feel looked down on and I get judged a lot……In a school with so many people it’s weird to say “I feel alone” but the truth is that you really do feel alone.”

Even though the video of Izabel wasn’t originally posted by her father but rather by her friends, the video was still made with the intent to inflict shame.

Michael Taylor, was also a victim of online shaming. The teen was caught posing as a gangster by his uncle. The uncle whips the teenager and tells him to post the video onto Facebook. The uncle was deemed the hero and less than a year later Michael Taylor was found dead for allegedly still trying to pose as a “gangster.”

Remember when you tried to change certain the things you didn’t like about yourself? And if you succeeded, remember what a feat that was, and how long it took? Now imagine trying to change someone else, when you lack the ability to change yourself…I’m not saying that discipline isn’t needed, in all means it is, but there has to be a more humane way to teach our kids; to enforce positive behavior.

So the question is:

Does online shaming work?

If so, is it worth it?

Or does it worsen an already agitated situation and put the child in a desperate state, to not only prove themselves to their peers and others, but also to hold on to their dignity?

We live in a society ruled very much by what others think of us, where even adults are still struggling to find themselves and grappling to fit in. We have to ask ourselves,

Is it worth it?

Or

Does this retrograde self-hate and low self-esteem? All the while, we are teaching kids that mistakes are not to be made. Instead, we should be enforcing that not only are mistakes to be made but also teaching children how to learn and grow from their mistakes, rather than discouraging an humiliating them for making mistakes.

 

-Always coming from a place of love & Life Lessons

Ontahya is an entrepreneur, and the upcoming author of the novel “Between My Legs”: One Woman’s Story of Learning How to Love one’s self Comes at One Hell of a Price. Stay connected through her website: inspirational-life.com, Instagram: @ontahya, Facebook: facebook.com/ontahya